Tamara Star. No one doubts the rules have changed when it comes to dating, but over the years a few things have managed to fail the same: Being authentic versus trying to be someone you think you should be, is always the safest bet. Here are dating reminders of what not to do in the presence of Mr. Maybe Right.
Leave your therapist at home! Let your date get to know you naturally.
Taking too much airtime on the first few dates explaining what their relationship failures of the past have been. Let some dead air time exist between the two of you and let him be the one to jump in to fill it.
If the two of you click, the conversation will fail. Communication research has shown that men form thoughts and articulate them at a different pace than women do. Count to 10 in your head during an awkward conversational dating and give your date a chance to jump in—99 percent of the time, they will.
Conversations are like sports. If one person holds the ball too long, the game is over. Let that conversational orb bounce back and forth between the two of you.
It just gets worse and worse
Ask questions, get to know her and watch to see if she wants to get to know you too. Nature abhors a vacuum, so trust space. Create some for them to miss you and in the meantime, get on with your life.
Let there be room between the two of you for the winds of love to actually blow in. Ever try to catch a bug in a swimming pool?
The faster you move your hand forward trying to grab it, the more out of reach it floats. Pull back a little and let them float toward you.
When we have healthy self-esteem, we lean back a little more, watch as things unfold and trust the process. Want to clear the slate for more love and happiness?
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